I’m getting old. Yes, I know I look very youthful in photographs, but truly, accumulated chronology is barking at my heels. As fast as my number of years is gaining on me, the light at the end of the tunnel, retirement, isn’t visually enlarging on the approaching horizon fast enough. I’m hoping the economy will bounce enough by the time I am 62 or 63 to put me among those images instead of still seeing them in the distance.
I won’t miss the work. I’ll write and ride my bike and play golf and read and eat lunch over a Scrabble board with Suzie and do all sorts of things for which there never seems to be enough time right now. What I will miss is the daily interaction with the people who prevent workdays from being drudgery. There have been a number of those at each place I have been employed. Among them, if you are lucky, there are a few rare ones who are undeniably special.
Sometimes, from one job to the next, you regrettably lose touch. I have. The Web and e-mail and Facebook and the like have enabled me to rebuild bridges in some cases. Thank goodness those utilities are there to prevent relationship gaps now and in the future. I mention this today because a dear friend is leaving my place of employment in the next few days. If yours is on the list of e-mail addresses to which I pass interesting, inspiring, or humorous forwards, you know her as one of my most prolific sources and probably have at least a feel for her specialness.
She was the first person other than Suzie to read my novel-in-waiting. We have exchanged our likes in reading matter. She introduced Suzie and me to Dean Koontz. She now has two copies of his best book, Watchers, because I inadvertently let her original get wet. The result was wavy pages that could cause seasickness in too lengthy sessions of reading. I knew I had to get her a new copy, as it was obvious from the wear on the original that it was my friend’s literary Velveteen Rabbit, a truly loved volume. I have always been impressed that she and her daughter, Alyssa, would be in the late night hordes to get their new copy of each Harry Potter book. They took turns reading them to each other aloud. Those are treasured mom and daughter experiences for sure.
Anyway, Christine Harris will be missed here in the halls of the venerable old bank I visit each day. I wish her enjoyment of the lighter workdays and much shorter commutes she’ll experience in her upcoming endeavor, as well as in every other aspect of life. Suzie and I promise to make sure that Christine and her ever-dashing hubby, Darren, pop up on our social calendar with regularity.
Take a look at the links here at Red Stick Writer, click on the one for Christine’s photography, and view the world through the eyes of one who sees its good side.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Corny Reminiscence - Buck an Ear
Toward the end of spring last year, Suzie and I trekked to Baton Rouge to attend the 40th reunion of Broadmoor High School’s Class of 1968. Prior to that, the last reunion I attended was the 10th back in 1978, and people hadn’t changed much in that first decade. Interaction was still somewhat cliquish. Most importantly, I was still living in Baton Rouge and kept up with some folks by bumping into them from time to time.
My 1992 move to the Johnson County, Kansas, suburbs across the state line from KCMO put the skids on that time-to-time bumping. As the years passed, I increasingly missed that incidental contact. When I visited Baton Rouge, I made time to see immediate family and a few close friends with whom I’d maintained contact, but there was never enough time to contact and see all of the other relatives and friends I wanted to see.
I was in the middle of a job search when the 20th reunion was held. Rather than a fault of my own, it was mismanagement by loan-related people who had caused the problems that resulted in the middle management layoff of which I was a victim at Ambank. Despite that, you always feel self-conscious when you’ve suffered a “jobectomy.” Afterward, I regretted having missed the gathering of my fellow Buccaneers of ‘68.
I think they convened again at 25 years, at which time I was just finishing my first year as a Kansan, and I believe there was some sort of work-related conflict. Uncle Sam moved me here as part of my employment with the Resolution Trust Corporation, the temporary Federal agency created to resolve the S&L crisis. About 30 of us from the Baton Rouge office of RTC had relocated to the Kansas City office in the spring of 1992, as the agency pared itself from 14 offices around the country to six. Again, I hated to miss the Buc camaraderie, but I had yet to realize how being away from my hometown would make reunions so much more meaningful.
When the 30th Class of ’68 conclave was held in 1998, my dad was in the middle of chemotherapy for colon cancer. I chose to pass on the reunion and visit after Dad was finished with his treatments a couple of months later. That way, he would have been feeling better and would get more enjoyment from my visit. This time, in addition to being sad about not getting to see my former classmates, I was also devastated by the loss my father. On the August Sunday morning before he was to have his last Thursday treatment, a cardiac event took him from us. Had I traveled to BR for that reunion, I would have gotten to see Dad one more time. No MasterCard ad is necessary to tell me that would have been priceless.
When the 40th reunion rolled around last year, there was no way I was not going to be there. Getting to see these people with whom I walked the halls of Broadmoor High School from the seventh through 12th grades was, and I’m dating myself here, almost like an E-ticket ride at Disneyland. Gone was the cliquish behavior. Wisdom and a comfort with life had set in. My classmates looked great.
In a moment, I felt younger. Remember, it was the first time I’d seen some of these people for 30 years. In the interim, I saw myself aging in the mirror, while I kept seeing them as they looked in high school or at the 10th reunion. Oh, they still looked good, but at least they were now my age again.
I thoroughly enjoyed the evening at the Walden Club. Though I had a previous engagement early on the next evening, I went to the Pastime around 10:30 or 11:00 to enjoy remainder of the less formal huddle to which even other graduating classes were invited. My disappointment was palpable when I got to the bar under the bridge and discovered an empty parking lot. Apparently, my classmates and the Pastime are getting older than I thought. Either that or my memory is failing. I know I’ve been at that place past midnight many times.
I told myself right after the reunion that I would make and maintain contact with the people with whom I had refreshed my acquaintance. There were good intentions, but it turned out to be like one of those let’s-do-lunch things, at least until now. After hearing friends and family here in Kansas talk about good experiences in reconnecting with old friends on Facebook, I decided to give it a try. I’m glad I did. Initial contacts have already occurred with a number of my Broadmoor friends and I hope there will be more.
I know that over time I’ll be more actively communicative with some than others. That said, it will be nice to know that they’ll all be there to bump into from time to time. I was going to say that we shared a moment in time and should exercise some semblance of staying in touch. The reality is that we shared a fairly large chunk of our lives. Some of us to back into elementary school, but as a class, most of us were lucky enough to string six years together at BHS. I believe I read in some of the reunion material that we were the only class to take full 7-through-12 advantage of what started out as Broadmoor Junior-Senior High School. As a consequence, we know over a decade’s worth of Goodwood Boulevard pirates.
If any of you who, like me, were among McLavy's minions happen to stop by here, please leave a comment. It’s been nice knowing you. Let’s do lunch.
My 1992 move to the Johnson County, Kansas, suburbs across the state line from KCMO put the skids on that time-to-time bumping. As the years passed, I increasingly missed that incidental contact. When I visited Baton Rouge, I made time to see immediate family and a few close friends with whom I’d maintained contact, but there was never enough time to contact and see all of the other relatives and friends I wanted to see.
I was in the middle of a job search when the 20th reunion was held. Rather than a fault of my own, it was mismanagement by loan-related people who had caused the problems that resulted in the middle management layoff of which I was a victim at Ambank. Despite that, you always feel self-conscious when you’ve suffered a “jobectomy.” Afterward, I regretted having missed the gathering of my fellow Buccaneers of ‘68.
I think they convened again at 25 years, at which time I was just finishing my first year as a Kansan, and I believe there was some sort of work-related conflict. Uncle Sam moved me here as part of my employment with the Resolution Trust Corporation, the temporary Federal agency created to resolve the S&L crisis. About 30 of us from the Baton Rouge office of RTC had relocated to the Kansas City office in the spring of 1992, as the agency pared itself from 14 offices around the country to six. Again, I hated to miss the Buc camaraderie, but I had yet to realize how being away from my hometown would make reunions so much more meaningful.
When the 30th Class of ’68 conclave was held in 1998, my dad was in the middle of chemotherapy for colon cancer. I chose to pass on the reunion and visit after Dad was finished with his treatments a couple of months later. That way, he would have been feeling better and would get more enjoyment from my visit. This time, in addition to being sad about not getting to see my former classmates, I was also devastated by the loss my father. On the August Sunday morning before he was to have his last Thursday treatment, a cardiac event took him from us. Had I traveled to BR for that reunion, I would have gotten to see Dad one more time. No MasterCard ad is necessary to tell me that would have been priceless.
When the 40th reunion rolled around last year, there was no way I was not going to be there. Getting to see these people with whom I walked the halls of Broadmoor High School from the seventh through 12th grades was, and I’m dating myself here, almost like an E-ticket ride at Disneyland. Gone was the cliquish behavior. Wisdom and a comfort with life had set in. My classmates looked great.
In a moment, I felt younger. Remember, it was the first time I’d seen some of these people for 30 years. In the interim, I saw myself aging in the mirror, while I kept seeing them as they looked in high school or at the 10th reunion. Oh, they still looked good, but at least they were now my age again.
I thoroughly enjoyed the evening at the Walden Club. Though I had a previous engagement early on the next evening, I went to the Pastime around 10:30 or 11:00 to enjoy remainder of the less formal huddle to which even other graduating classes were invited. My disappointment was palpable when I got to the bar under the bridge and discovered an empty parking lot. Apparently, my classmates and the Pastime are getting older than I thought. Either that or my memory is failing. I know I’ve been at that place past midnight many times.
I told myself right after the reunion that I would make and maintain contact with the people with whom I had refreshed my acquaintance. There were good intentions, but it turned out to be like one of those let’s-do-lunch things, at least until now. After hearing friends and family here in Kansas talk about good experiences in reconnecting with old friends on Facebook, I decided to give it a try. I’m glad I did. Initial contacts have already occurred with a number of my Broadmoor friends and I hope there will be more.
I know that over time I’ll be more actively communicative with some than others. That said, it will be nice to know that they’ll all be there to bump into from time to time. I was going to say that we shared a moment in time and should exercise some semblance of staying in touch. The reality is that we shared a fairly large chunk of our lives. Some of us to back into elementary school, but as a class, most of us were lucky enough to string six years together at BHS. I believe I read in some of the reunion material that we were the only class to take full 7-through-12 advantage of what started out as Broadmoor Junior-Senior High School. As a consequence, we know over a decade’s worth of Goodwood Boulevard pirates.
If any of you who, like me, were among McLavy's minions happen to stop by here, please leave a comment. It’s been nice knowing you. Let’s do lunch.
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